Activities to Help You Deal with Anger and Frustration
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If you have teenagers or work with teenagers, I am sure you are familiar with their sometimes sudden outbursts of anger. There are many factors that can cause anger and rage, from stress at school and home or problems with friends. Depending on the severity of your teen’s outbursts, it might be necessary to see a health professional to help them cope with anger in a positive way and find useful anger strategies. However, The Anger Workbook for Teens is an additional source of support to give your teens positive ways and skills to deal with their negative feelings and live a much happier life.
The workbook gives teens an in-depth understanding of why they feel anger and what sets it off. With the help of the exercises in the workbook, the teens learn coping strategies to keep their anger at bay and how to calm their feelings of rage and anger. After filling out their own personal anger profile, the workbook invites them to make their own anger game plan.
Overall, I think that this workbook, designed and written by a professional anger school counselor with extensive experience, is a very effective tool in helping your angry teens to turn away from aggression and instead become happy and calm individuals.
Showing posts with label Anger Management for Children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Anger Management for Children. Show all posts
Monday, October 18, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Staying Sane With Angry Teenagers
Teenagers are often described as being filled with angst. While this might or might not accurately describe your teenager, your teen may have an issue with anger. What happens when keeping your sanity with angry teenagers doesn’t seem possible? Here are some tips to help you maintain your grip and keep lines of communication with your teen open.
Your teen is going through so much in their life. They want to be treated like an adult but haven’t quite reached that age yet. They may also have made some poor decisions which have caused you to withhold the respect they so desperately desire.
Do everything you can to make sure your teen knows you love them. You may not particularly care for their attitude or how they treat you or the other family members, but they need to know your love for them won’t change. However, even though you love them, they also need to understand that certain outbursts and attitudes aren’t acceptable.
No matter how angry your teen may be, or for whatever reason, it is important to choose the high road with them. It would be easy to get dragged down to their level and respond to anger with anger. This course of action never works. Instead you can choose to control your anger and talk with them in a calm manner. By modeling calm to your teen, they may actually begin to become less angry.
Help them realize that some anger is normal. However, remaining angry for no apparent reason or for long periods of time is not. Try to show your teen proper ways to deal with their frustrations rather than yelling, screaming or taking their anger out on someone. Tell them you understand their frustration with a younger sibling going into their room, but hitting their brother or sister isn’t appropriate.
When your teen has calmed down some, ask them how they could better react in a productive rather than angry way. Help them to see that anger is not the solution to their problem. In fact, staying angry may cause more problems than their initial complaint.
If you notice your own emotions beginning to flare when dealing with your teen, it might be a good idea for both of you to have a time out. Take some time to go to separate rooms to think about what has happened. When you’ve both calmed down you can begin talking again. Let them know exactly what they’ve done or said that wasn’t approved of. Then help them try to decide how to better handle a similar situation in the future.
If you do happen to let your teen’s anger rub off on you, forgive yourself. Emotions are a tricky business and they are easily transferred from one to another when tension and feelings are high. Apologize to your teen for your part in escalating the issue and tell them you hope you can both try to do better next time.
Ask other parents how they deal with their teens’ anger. They may have advice or suggestions which will work for your family. If all else fails, you can also seek professional help. Perhaps your teen’s anger is worse than you thought. A professional will be able to determine what the best course of action is to help them overcome their anger.
Your teen is trying to figure out where they fit in. They’re not quite adults and not quite children. Be sure to tell them you love them even when keeping your sanity with angry teenagers seems impossible.
Your teen is going through so much in their life. They want to be treated like an adult but haven’t quite reached that age yet. They may also have made some poor decisions which have caused you to withhold the respect they so desperately desire.
Do everything you can to make sure your teen knows you love them. You may not particularly care for their attitude or how they treat you or the other family members, but they need to know your love for them won’t change. However, even though you love them, they also need to understand that certain outbursts and attitudes aren’t acceptable.
No matter how angry your teen may be, or for whatever reason, it is important to choose the high road with them. It would be easy to get dragged down to their level and respond to anger with anger. This course of action never works. Instead you can choose to control your anger and talk with them in a calm manner. By modeling calm to your teen, they may actually begin to become less angry.
Help them realize that some anger is normal. However, remaining angry for no apparent reason or for long periods of time is not. Try to show your teen proper ways to deal with their frustrations rather than yelling, screaming or taking their anger out on someone. Tell them you understand their frustration with a younger sibling going into their room, but hitting their brother or sister isn’t appropriate.
When your teen has calmed down some, ask them how they could better react in a productive rather than angry way. Help them to see that anger is not the solution to their problem. In fact, staying angry may cause more problems than their initial complaint.
If you notice your own emotions beginning to flare when dealing with your teen, it might be a good idea for both of you to have a time out. Take some time to go to separate rooms to think about what has happened. When you’ve both calmed down you can begin talking again. Let them know exactly what they’ve done or said that wasn’t approved of. Then help them try to decide how to better handle a similar situation in the future.
If you do happen to let your teen’s anger rub off on you, forgive yourself. Emotions are a tricky business and they are easily transferred from one to another when tension and feelings are high. Apologize to your teen for your part in escalating the issue and tell them you hope you can both try to do better next time.
Ask other parents how they deal with their teens’ anger. They may have advice or suggestions which will work for your family. If all else fails, you can also seek professional help. Perhaps your teen’s anger is worse than you thought. A professional will be able to determine what the best course of action is to help them overcome their anger.
Your teen is trying to figure out where they fit in. They’re not quite adults and not quite children. Be sure to tell them you love them even when keeping your sanity with angry teenagers seems impossible.
Monday, May 18, 2009
Anger Management Groups for Children
Everyone is aware of what it feels like to be angry. The reasons for the emotion will vary depending on the circumstances, but the feeling of rage is very real. As we mature, we usually find it easier to manage our anger than children do. That's why there are anger management groups for children. These group therapy sessions are age appropriate in order to avoid placing any more pressure on them than they're already experiencing.
Children will have a chance to understand the problems and issues related to anger, as well as be taught techniques for how to deal with them. Learning from others is a great way for children to deal with certain situations. They'll learn that lashing out at others isn't the answer. They will have to learn to communicate and vent their feelings regarding certain circumstances in an appropriate manner.
In anger management groups for children, they will also be taught how to express themselves more honestly when they realize they don't have to deal with the problems alone anymore. This gives them an opportunity to explore ways to manage their issues.
As with anything else in human relations, whether or not they're close to you, being able to express your feelings is still the most essential aspect. It's critical to express what you really are feeling, regardless of whether you feel helpless at the moment. Anger management groups for children can teach them to open the lines of communication between themselves and other people apart from the group. The advantage of attending these groups is that someday they will be able to use the techniques they have learned in the workplace as well.
In anger management for children, they will be taught how to apply the techniques to their own personal circumstances so they can deal effectively with their emotions in a way that's comfortable for them. Not everyone is the same, and not everyone needs the same solutions. Some children might require medication, but most kids will be able to learn to manage their emotions in a more responsible manner without causing harm to themselves and others.
When involved in an anger management group for children, kids will realize that there are people they can turn to when they feel that their world is crashing down around them. It's valuable for them to know there is someone they can trust and communicate openly with. Kids require ongoing nurturing and guidance, because oftentimes other children can be mean, simply because of their own problems. Children typically will bully others in an effort to make themselves feel more powerful, because frequently they are being abused by someone else, and this is the only means they have of venting their anger.
It's essential that children learn to respect each another, and equally as important that they learn to respect themselves. This means not permitting others to goad them into the harmful destruction that can arise from anger.
Children will have a chance to understand the problems and issues related to anger, as well as be taught techniques for how to deal with them. Learning from others is a great way for children to deal with certain situations. They'll learn that lashing out at others isn't the answer. They will have to learn to communicate and vent their feelings regarding certain circumstances in an appropriate manner.
In anger management groups for children, they will also be taught how to express themselves more honestly when they realize they don't have to deal with the problems alone anymore. This gives them an opportunity to explore ways to manage their issues.
As with anything else in human relations, whether or not they're close to you, being able to express your feelings is still the most essential aspect. It's critical to express what you really are feeling, regardless of whether you feel helpless at the moment. Anger management groups for children can teach them to open the lines of communication between themselves and other people apart from the group. The advantage of attending these groups is that someday they will be able to use the techniques they have learned in the workplace as well.
In anger management for children, they will be taught how to apply the techniques to their own personal circumstances so they can deal effectively with their emotions in a way that's comfortable for them. Not everyone is the same, and not everyone needs the same solutions. Some children might require medication, but most kids will be able to learn to manage their emotions in a more responsible manner without causing harm to themselves and others.
When involved in an anger management group for children, kids will realize that there are people they can turn to when they feel that their world is crashing down around them. It's valuable for them to know there is someone they can trust and communicate openly with. Kids require ongoing nurturing and guidance, because oftentimes other children can be mean, simply because of their own problems. Children typically will bully others in an effort to make themselves feel more powerful, because frequently they are being abused by someone else, and this is the only means they have of venting their anger.
It's essential that children learn to respect each another, and equally as important that they learn to respect themselves. This means not permitting others to goad them into the harmful destruction that can arise from anger.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Teaching Anger Management Techniques to Children
It seems that these days there is more of a need than ever to teach anger management techniques to our children. With the hectic pace of life in modern society, people have become very stressed and likely to erupt in anger at the slightest provocation. Sadly, children these days are also feeling the pressure, and as they witness how the grownups around them respond to certain situations, they are copying the anger response.
So it becomes imperative for adults to learn to deal more appropriately with their feelings of rage, and at the same time model this behavior to children. Anger management classes can teach some important techniques for dealing with this negative emotion to both children and adults alike. The focus in these classes is on learning the correct way to deal with any given situation. Children, however, will learn anger management techniques more effectively if they are taught in a more simplified manner. Pictures work well, for example. In truth, though, some adults could also benefit from a more literal approach to anger management.
Of course, learning anger management techniques for children should begin in the home. For example, there should be consequences for inappropriate behavior, such as being sent to their room or having to sit in a corner. Children will quickly learn from this that it's important to deal with their anger differently if they don't want to be punished. Most of them won't enjoy being isolated in such ways.
As children are taught anger management techniques, that's the first lesson. They have realized that something they have done is inappropriate and they are dealt with accordingly. From there, they have to be taught better ways to deal with their feelings of anger. For example, they can learn that a good way to manage their emotions is to just walk away in order to give them time to calm down. Children in particular forget events quickly and move on to the next situation with ease.
Another anger management technique for children you can try is giving them a time out. This only works if they are sufficiently mature to grasp the concept of dealing with their emotions. They need to learn that they have to understand the other person's point of view and not just insist on getting their own way. This only escalates the situation.
So there you have a few basic anger management tips for children. To summarize, use appropriate punishment when they act out on their anger; teach them to walk away from emotional situations; and help them to make the effort to understand both sides of the situation. Another useful tip that they can learn is to take deep breaths in these kinds of situations. This will help to lower their blood pressure and calm their mind.
They need to learn that they are the only ones who can handle the situation in the end, and they must figure out a way to keep their emotions in check.
So it becomes imperative for adults to learn to deal more appropriately with their feelings of rage, and at the same time model this behavior to children. Anger management classes can teach some important techniques for dealing with this negative emotion to both children and adults alike. The focus in these classes is on learning the correct way to deal with any given situation. Children, however, will learn anger management techniques more effectively if they are taught in a more simplified manner. Pictures work well, for example. In truth, though, some adults could also benefit from a more literal approach to anger management.
Of course, learning anger management techniques for children should begin in the home. For example, there should be consequences for inappropriate behavior, such as being sent to their room or having to sit in a corner. Children will quickly learn from this that it's important to deal with their anger differently if they don't want to be punished. Most of them won't enjoy being isolated in such ways.
As children are taught anger management techniques, that's the first lesson. They have realized that something they have done is inappropriate and they are dealt with accordingly. From there, they have to be taught better ways to deal with their feelings of anger. For example, they can learn that a good way to manage their emotions is to just walk away in order to give them time to calm down. Children in particular forget events quickly and move on to the next situation with ease.
Another anger management technique for children you can try is giving them a time out. This only works if they are sufficiently mature to grasp the concept of dealing with their emotions. They need to learn that they have to understand the other person's point of view and not just insist on getting their own way. This only escalates the situation.
So there you have a few basic anger management tips for children. To summarize, use appropriate punishment when they act out on their anger; teach them to walk away from emotional situations; and help them to make the effort to understand both sides of the situation. Another useful tip that they can learn is to take deep breaths in these kinds of situations. This will help to lower their blood pressure and calm their mind.
They need to learn that they are the only ones who can handle the situation in the end, and they must figure out a way to keep their emotions in check.
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Anger Management for Children Helps Kids Control Their Emotions
There are lots of ways that children express their emotions, and all too often it comes in the form of anger. This is because they haven't fully learned how to look objectively at a situation and respond appropriately. But in order to get along with other people, it's essential that they be taught how to do so. A good way to teach this skill is through a class that specializes in anger management for children.
Classes in anger management for children aren't inexpensive, but it's not that difficult to justify the cost when you consider all the benefits of teaching your child to learn to control his or her temper and get along better with their peers.
There's no doubt that just about everyone explodes once a while, particularly when provoked very far. The secret, though, is to learn to deal with rage when it appears, especially before it goes too far. Through anger management for children, they can learn to remove themselves from the situation. They can just walk away; leave the room if possible, if they feel out of control with the situation. Another good trick is to take several deep breaths or count to 10.
Anger management for children helps them learn ways to take some time out where they physically walk away from a confrontational situation. Although kids aren't always able to have the freedom of movement to leave the classroom or the house, they can find a corner or room that is their calm place. This gives them a chance to cool down and think about the situation, then deal with it more suitably.
The key skill that will be taught at these types of classes is to deal with the negative emotions before they go past the point of no return. Whether it's their siblings or their classmates that are picking on them, they have to figure out how to get a handle on their rage before any damage takes place. It really doesn't matter who's to blame for creating the ugly situation. The essential thing is that children learn to look at it objectively and figure out the best course of action in a calm, controlled manner. Once they master this skill, they'll be able to more easily differentiate between destructive and constructive behavior.
As kids are taught the techniques of anger management for children they will gain a huge advantage in life, and that's called self control. This ability isn't only helpful for getting along better with others, but it will also help to make them a leader among their peers because they can think more clearly. It's also healthier, since the consequences of uncontrolled anger can lead to all sorts of health issues down the road.
Learning to control their outbursts at a young age is important for a child because they will ultimately enjoy their life more. They will be able to concentrate better in class, and take part in competitive sports and activities with a clearer head and more enjoyment. That's where it's your job as a parent to provide proper guidance in anger management for children so they can respond appropriately to all sorts of conditions, even if the other person is to blame.
Classes in anger management for children aren't inexpensive, but it's not that difficult to justify the cost when you consider all the benefits of teaching your child to learn to control his or her temper and get along better with their peers.
There's no doubt that just about everyone explodes once a while, particularly when provoked very far. The secret, though, is to learn to deal with rage when it appears, especially before it goes too far. Through anger management for children, they can learn to remove themselves from the situation. They can just walk away; leave the room if possible, if they feel out of control with the situation. Another good trick is to take several deep breaths or count to 10.
Anger management for children helps them learn ways to take some time out where they physically walk away from a confrontational situation. Although kids aren't always able to have the freedom of movement to leave the classroom or the house, they can find a corner or room that is their calm place. This gives them a chance to cool down and think about the situation, then deal with it more suitably.
The key skill that will be taught at these types of classes is to deal with the negative emotions before they go past the point of no return. Whether it's their siblings or their classmates that are picking on them, they have to figure out how to get a handle on their rage before any damage takes place. It really doesn't matter who's to blame for creating the ugly situation. The essential thing is that children learn to look at it objectively and figure out the best course of action in a calm, controlled manner. Once they master this skill, they'll be able to more easily differentiate between destructive and constructive behavior.
As kids are taught the techniques of anger management for children they will gain a huge advantage in life, and that's called self control. This ability isn't only helpful for getting along better with others, but it will also help to make them a leader among their peers because they can think more clearly. It's also healthier, since the consequences of uncontrolled anger can lead to all sorts of health issues down the road.
Learning to control their outbursts at a young age is important for a child because they will ultimately enjoy their life more. They will be able to concentrate better in class, and take part in competitive sports and activities with a clearer head and more enjoyment. That's where it's your job as a parent to provide proper guidance in anger management for children so they can respond appropriately to all sorts of conditions, even if the other person is to blame.
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